Do you believe in boy-girl friendships? A straight male and female who are the best of friends. I think it is possible. I’m living proof.
I’ve known my best friend for ten years now. We met in high school and had an instant connection. From the outside you would never pair us together. We are so different. Yet so similar. I trust him with my life. He knows things about me that I’d rather left buried. He can be odd sometimes and I can be weird sometimes but strangely it works. Our dynamic cannot be explained. That is often the issue I’ve noticed. The people around me don’t get it. They are convinced that we will end up together. The fact that we are both single at the moment is no help either. Honestly? I don’t know. They say never say never but in this case it’s pretty close to never.
It is true that I sometimes think that our relationship can be a brake for the both of us. We go on holiday together, to the movies, to dinner,… just the two of us. It’s true that it can perhaps stop us from finding someone else. Honestly, without the sexual relationship, we are practically a couple. Still I don’t want us to be a couple. It is nice to know that you have a friend who is always there for you. I can understand why people would think it doesn’t work. It is easy to confuse the two. When you are so accustomed to that other person you can perhaps mistake it for love. Or it is also possible that those friendship feelings turn into love. That doesn’t mean the friendship wasn’t real, I just think that the friendship evolves into something more.
For me personally I think it is kind of normal that I have a best friend. I have always had more guy friends than girls. I don’t do well with large girl groups, but that’s a story for another time.